Can We Please Not Fight? - Happiness Vlog

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When we argue with our partner, it's easy to forget that we're both on the same team. Watch this! XO

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Have you ever argued so passionately with someone to the point where you have no idea what you were actually arguing about in the first place?

Every argument starts off as a conversation and somewhere along the way our sensitivities, defensiveness and lack of patience causes us to not listen.

Everybody wants to be listened to, so we start to
talk over each other and we already have a rebuttal at hand before the other person finishes their sentence.

Most of us have the intention to listen and we don’t actually like interrupting but then, we also feel like if we don’t respond immediately and say the things in our mind right now, we might forget later!

But what’s the worst thing that can happen if we forget all our points? We’d have new thoughts… and perhaps even more rational thoughts because we’re calmer.

In any argument, we usually feel like we’re right. But how can that be when we’re contributing to the argument? The most simple and basic truth is that nobody can argue on their own.

When we’re arguing with someone we love it’s so easy to forget that we’re on the same team with the same objective, which is to have
a great relationship. Not a great relationship on my terms, and not a great relationship on your terms, but just working together towards a great relationship.

The main reason why the problems in our relationship don’t get solved, is because we have become each other’s problem.

When you’re in a relationship, it’s important to remember that it’s you two versus the problem, not you versus him, or you versus her.

In any argument, it’s not about giving in. It’s not about sacrifices. Taking the relationship to a good place is about patience and a genuine desire to understand. It’s not about you, it’s not about me, but about how we can help the relationship, and be happy, always.

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