Nothing Nice To Say?

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To Read:
There are many ways to bond and create a connection with someone, and jokingly insulting them, pointing out their faults or commenting on how bad they look… isn’t one of them.

Nobody likes to feel bad about themselves. Even when something negative is said in jest, you never know if the person is actually sensitive about it. Just because they don’t react like they’re hurt or upset, doesn’t mean they feel good listening to you.

If someone isn’t in a relationship or haven’t been in one for a long time, teasing them about it requires them to respond back in a joking manner to show that they’re not affected - which means that we are giving someone no choice but to make light of a situation they may actually care a lot about.

Nobody like to be overweight or underweight, so if we tease them about their diet or how they look, we’re not giving them much choice but to “haha” back like it’s funny, when actually they feel self-conscious about the way they look.

We need to find other topics to small talk with someone other than commenting about the person, and we need to filter what we say by considering how our comments will make someone feel.

Saying “Oh, you look better in photos” doesn’t actually contribute anything to a conversation, because what is the person supposed to say that? If they don’t laugh it off, they’ll look defensive, and nobody wants to come across as defensive. Human beings are such that the more something bothers us, the more we’ll try to be nonchalant about it.

So the next time you want to say something that doesn’t necessarily make someone feel good about themselves, it really helps to think twice and perhaps choose another topic instead. You want people to enjoy talking to you, and for them to be happy, always.
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