Should You Communicate Your Insecurities? (Love and Relationships)

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When there is something about your partner that bothers you, should you communicate it or should you wait for him to sense it?

Love doesn’t make us mind readers. Just because we love someone, it doesn’t mean we will automatically be able to detect our partner’s fears and insecurities.

If you do not communicate what bothers us and wait for our partner to sense it, then aren’t you going to be waiting a long time, and feeling frustrated the entire time? Because he might never sense it. Not because he doesn’t love you, but because we’re all not aware of what we’re not aware of.

Normally, we wouldn’t assume that someone “should know something”. Yet, when someone loves us, we feel that “if you love me, you would know why I’m upset”, or “If you really cared, you would know why you shouldn’t have done that”.

Emotionally, that makes sense. Rationally, that doesn’t make sense. How can someone know what they don’t know?


Having told someone something, even a million times, is not an indication that they will know how we are feeling. People usually take time to understand something they didn’t understand in the first place.

It’s illogical for us to immediately attach what someone does or doesn’t do to how much they love us. People can love us, but often they don’t even know how to love themselves properly, so of course they’re going to have difficulties knowing how to love us.


Sometimes, we don’t want to bring up what bothers us and would rather wait for our partner to sense it because we don’t want to come across as needy or desperate for affection or attention. But if you do bring it up, and your partner thinks you’re needy or desperate, then it’s a sign that you don’t want to be with the person anyway!

If we don’t allow ourselves to be vulnerable, the lack of trust means we won’t be able to be happy in the relationship no matter how much we love the person.

We can learn how to bring things up without accusing the person, and simply express the hurt or insecurity we feel. We can also learn how to not get upset when our partner doesn’t give us the response we want.

When we communicate, our relationship won’t be driven by fear and doubts and guesswork, and it’ll be much easier to be happy, always.
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