The 3 Ways To Be Truly Confident - Happiness Vlog

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Be truly confident on the inside, not just on the outside. Here's how Xo

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There are some things in life that we want to be
and being confident is one of them. The thing is, we can be confident on the outside but don’t feel good about ourselves on the inside.

Feeling good on the inside requires more than just being confident, it’s about having a strong self-esteem. And our self-esteem is made up of our emotional evaluation of our worth. It’s our judgement and attitude towards ourselves.

There are 3 things we need to do to develop a strong self-esteem and inner confidence.

Number 1:
Believe that you are enough.

Growing up we’re used to the concept of rewards when we do something right and punishments when we do something wrong. So it’s easy to adopt this same system as adults. We feel like we have to be better in order to be worthy.

And we assume that thinking this way is a sign of self-awareness, but actually, it’s a sign of a lack of self-love.

When we don’t believe that we are enough, we’ll continue heaping expectations and conditions upon ourselves so that we feel deserving of love, respect and acceptance.

Number 2: Understand that
self-criticism is not self-improvement.

Somehow, we’re used to this concept that when we criticise someone they’ll improve. And even when we don’t criticise people, we’ll criticise ourselves. Self-criticism is a way of knowing our weaknesses but it isn’t a healthy way.

Any critical thought we have of ourselves erodes our self-esteem instead of building it.
It is entirely possible to work on ourselves without being harsh on ourselves.

We grow better with encouragement, not criticism and we need to apply that to ourselves.

It’s, “Oh no I made a mistake… I wish I hadn’t, but I’ll take it as a learning experience.” Not “Oh no I made a mistake, I’m always f***ing up!”

Number 3:Don’t judge others or compare
yourself.

Being judgemental of other people can be a very subconscious thinglike having higher respect for people whom we deem are ‘more worthy’.

If we think this way, then we ourselves will feel like we’re not worthy unless we achieve something significant.

If we think that good-looking or successful people deserves special treatment then we won’t know how to be nice to ourselves when we’re feeling down. Because we think we’re not special.

There are people who are higher in status than us but that’s on the outside. On the inside, we’re all equal in our humanity.

Not judging others helps us to stop comparing
ourselves to other people because we genuinely believe that everyone is equal and no one is ‘more worthy’.

When we have a strong self-esteem, we can feel not very confident in certain situations yet never question our self-worth. And this helps us to not react or behave in ways just to get attention, respect or acceptance and more opportunities will open up to us because people naturally gravitate towards other people who are comfortable in their own skin.

It is always with a strong self-esteem that we’re able to build healthy relationships and experience amazing successes in life.

So be more than just confident - Accept and love yourself and that is truly being able to be happy, always!

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